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Disappointment

Disappointment arrives whenever our expectations collide with reality. We feel it toward things, toward events, toward people—and, if we are honest, sometimes toward God Himself. Scripture does not hide this human experience. It records it plainly, and it answers it with the cross and the empty tomb.

The raising of Lazarus in John 11 is a portrait of disappointment in the lives of those who loved Jesus most. Mary and Martha sent word that their brother was ill, and Jesus deliberately delayed two days. By the time He arrived, Lazarus had been in the tomb four days—a detail that mattered, since the rabbis taught (without scriptural warrant) that a soul might hover near the body for three days but no longer. The fourth day removed any explanation but miracle. Both sisters greeted Jesus with the same aching words: "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." That is not accusation so much as grief shot through with disappointment.

The Psalms give this same voice room to breathe. David cries, "How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?" Psalm 13:1. The sons of Korah ask, "Why have you forgotten me?" Psalm 42:9. Israel in the wilderness grew tired of manna and longed for the cucumbers and garlic of Egypt Numbers 11:4-6. Believers have always wrestled with a God whose timing and ways do not match their own.

One root of this disappointment is what theologians call an over-realized eschatology—the mistaken belief that everything promised for heaven can be claimed now. Revelation 21:4 promises a day with no death, no mourning, no crying, no pain. But Scripture nowhere promises that this side of heaven. When preachers insist that every Christian should be healed and prosperous now, and blame the suffering for a lack of faith, they crush the hurting under expectations God never gave. The cross-shaped Christian life includes weakness, tears, and waiting. Disappointment of that kind is healed not by claiming more, but by adjusting our expectations to what God has actually said.

Disappointment runs the other direction as well. God Himself is grieved by His people. Jesus laments over Jerusalem: "How often would I have gathered your children together… and you were not willing!" Matthew 23:37. Paul warns, "Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God" Ephesians 4:30. Yet what does God do with His disappointment toward us? He sends His Son to bear it. Christ takes to the cross every sin of thought, word, and deed, every good we failed to do, and the Father then looks upon us clothed in the perfect righteousness of Jesus. The empty tomb is the receipt that the sacrifice was accepted.

That is why Jesus told the disciples that Lazarus's illness was "for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it" John 11:4. The delay was not neglect; it was the stage on which resurrection power would be revealed. Could the disappointments God permits in your life be doing the same work—emptying you of self-reliance so that His glory might be displayed? Paul prayed three times for his thorn to be removed and received instead, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness" 2 Corinthians 12:9. True strength is found in leaning, weak and empty-handed, on the omnipotent God.

So when reality wounds your expectations, hear Jesus speak the same words He spoke to Martha at the tomb: "I am the resurrection and the life" John 11:25. He is still in charge—even of the disappointment. Romans 8:28 promises that all things—not most, not the easy ones—work together for good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose. Sometimes the good has not yet appeared; the disappointment has not yet been redeemed. But the One who called Lazarus out of the grave can be trusted with your waiting. Disappointed with God? Trust Him.

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